When it comes to our children, I think any parent would agree that fear can sometimes be flat out overwhelming. I will never forget the day my daughter was born. A young person myself, I wondered how I would take care of such a beautiful little person. The day my mother left after helping me for a week when my second child was born is still a vivid picture in my mind as well. I cried like a baby as she left, wondering how in the world I could take of two small children, do laundry, cook, and be a good wife. Then the third was born, and then the fourth. My children have been a true blessing from God, and that is something I am very sure of. However, even in my confidence that they are blessing, comes fear of losing of them. Failing them. Not being enough for them.
Perhaps my greatest fear when it comes to my children is the shape our world is now in. I can really work myself up into a tizzy if I sit and wonder if there will be another draft and what would I do if my boys would have to go? I worry about my daughter and the boys she meets at college. What’s so wrong with small town boys from where we live, that I know? I worry about illness, disease, and death. No parent should have to bury a child, and yet, we do. When my children started driving, this fear became especially real!
My youngest sister is currently walking a path with her oldest child and I can’t imagine the fear that she has. How many nights she’s not slept and how the fear that she has runs through her veins like blood. She fears for his future and for his life. She fears what will happen when he leaves rehab. She fears he won’t love her for taking him there. She fears she can’t handle anymore.
Yes, as parents, I suppose fear is something we may feel weekly or even daily. But just as our other fears MUST be turned over to God, so we should turn this fear over too! Did God not give us the child? Does he/she REALLY belong to us? Does God give us things we can’t handle? (if you are shaking your head YES, I see you. I’ve nodded up and down too at times.) “Wise are the parents who regularly give their children back to God”. (pg 58)
Today left me encourage you. God PROMISED us that he would NEVER leave us or forsake us. I’m sure that same promise carries over to the very child he gave us. He promised to hear our prayers. However, it is our job to PRAY. When I pray for my children, I pray protection over them. I pray for mental, physcial, emotional, and spiritual protection. I pray for direction. For them and for me. I pray that they will love God and seek his will for their lives. I pray that God will give them strength and wisdom to deal with the world and what is coming for them. I pray that they will make good & Godly decisions. I pray that God will send them friends that will be a good influence in their lives, not bad. I pray for their future spouses too.
As a parent my greatest tool for parenting and for conquering my fears is PRAYER. “Don’t be afraid. Just have faith…” (Luke 8:49) And I am learning that the greatest way to grow my faith is through prayer.
How do you pray for your children?